Joan ‘Joey’ O’Connor passed away peacefully on February 9, 2021 at her home.

Born in 1931 in Kansas City, Missouri, Joey was the daughter of Dr. Hugh L. Dywer and Ruth Stier Dwyer and grew up at 5408 Central in a large, happy family.   She attended Visitation School, St. Theresa’s and Maryville College briefly before marrying her husband, John J. O’Connor Jr. in 1951.  Joey was an avid antique collector and began conducting estate sales in the 1970’s throughout the midwest.  She owned and operated Joey O’Connor’s Consignment Shop, an antique shop in the Kansas City area for over 40 years until she retired in 2012.

Joey was preceded in death by her loving husband of 49 years, John, and her beloved grandson, Jake Clough.  She was the sixth of seven children including Dr. Hugh L. Dwyer Jr., Dr. Francis X. (Army) Dwyer, Barbara (Mrs. Frank X. O’Brien), Martha (Mrs. John G. Phillips),Mary Ann Dwyer and Jeanie (Mrs. James E. Lonergan) all of whom preceded her in death.

She is survived by her children, Molly O’Connor, John J. O’Connor III (Mary), Maggie O’Connor Doolittle (Jack), Joan ‘Otis’ O’Connor Clough (Tom)  ten grandchildren: John J.O’Connor IV, Tara Andris, Madeleine Rau, Amy Loup, Lucy O’Connor, Liza Clough, Wen Clough, Merrie Clough, Finn Doolittle, Fiona Doolittle and six great-grandchildren.

Joey had strong opinions on most everything and no one ever accused her of being a diplomat. You never had to wonder what Joey was thinking as she wouldn’t hesitate to let you know.  She loved shopping, football, trips to Las Vegas, politics, her family and her faith.  Joey had an incredible sense of style. She was an avowed fashionista, but did experience the occasional lapse in judgement, such as when she paired a feather boa with tennis shoes to play the slots in Vegas. Sorry Joey. Not everything that happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.

She will be remembered for her quick wit, feisty personality and her indomitable spirit to the end.  We hope she always knew how much we loved her and always will.

The family would like to thank everyone at the Forum for their kindness to Joey and our family.  We offer special thanks to Shannon Bukaty for her selfless concern and attention to Joey, to An Lane of Kansas City Hospice and to all of Joey’s devoted caregivers.  We are so grateful for your kindness, compassion and tender care of our mother.

A private, family service will be held at a later date at Joey’s request.

Memorial contributions may be made to Shannon Dalton Bukaty, c/o Linda’s Gifts:Angels in Action at Country Club Bank or Kansas City Hospice at

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