Patrick Dale Lafferty, a.k.a. Pert, Lil’ Dirty Ferty, or TheDaddyBird, won victory over his pain and illnesses on April 28, 2022. He has transitioned to his final home.
Pat was born on December 14, 1955 as the youngest of five. He was born in Cleveland, TN at a time when it was a quite small city, not even appearing on most maps. The hospital was also small (only 28 beds). Pat was born extremely prematurely, weighing only two pounds. The doctor declared him dead but a nurse was able to revive him. The hospital had no NICU and the doctor declined to transfer him to a larger facility.
On Christmas Eve, his mother walked out of the hospital with him, declaring that her baby would not be spending Christmas in the hospital. The doctor let her do it, saying, “He’s going to die anyway. Might as well let him die at home.”
The family placed him in an empty aquarium with a heat lamp, hot water bottles and a heating pad. The house thermostat was set to over 90° and the family celebrated Christmas in their swimming suits. His sister, Martha, who was 10 at the time, described him as “the cutest little drowned rat you’ve ever seen.”
Pat grew and faced many illnesses and issues when he was young. Because of these issues, he was a somewhat spoiled and mischievous, but not a bad child. He had a rather tumultuous childhood. When he was five, his family moved to Staten Island and then later to Wilmington, DE.
At age four, Pat taught himself to play the ukulele and then later the guitar. Pat was active and quite successful in the local and school swim teams. He loved the beach.
Pat struggled for most of his teens and adulthood with several addictions, but managed to beat most of them. After the deaths of both his parents when he was a teenager, Pat moved to Missouri to live with his older brother and his family. He always longed for the ocean, however.
Pat was a fun and funny man and loved good jokes and fun stories. He loved music of all genres and it was a huge part of his life. He met his wife Dottie, at a Kingston Trio concert at Crown Center in Kansas City in June of 1986. Five months later, on his birthday, they were married. (He never forgot an anniversary.) Their only daughter, Colleen Mariah, was born quite prematurely 9 months and 9 days after they were wed.
Pat worked as an Electronics Technician for most of his life until he was forced to retire because of disability. In his later years he suffered from many ailments including COPD, emphysema, heart disease and cancer, but none of that stopped him from living and loving his family and friends.
Pat is survived by Dorothy, his wife of 35 years, his beloved daughter Colleen who was the light of his life, his dear sister Martha Alwes, of Mahomet, IL, his sister-in-law Colleen Clark, of Wilmington, DE, his four brothers-in-law, Tom Helm of NYC, Michael Helm of Chula Vista, CA, Dan (Valerie) and Ryan (Sarah) Helm, of Smithville, MO, and Scott (Jenny) Helm, of Shawnee, KS. He also leaves many nieces and nephews, grand-nieces and nephews, and scores of good friends. He is also survived by his spoiled and well loved furbabies, his kitties, Sheriff Scruffy Billy Jim Bob (a.k.a Scruffy), Sir Stockings Rockefeller (a.k.a. Sockz), Princess Tabitha Louise (a.k.a. Tabby), and Duchess Snowball Marie (a. k. a. Lil’ Bit).
Pat is preceded in death by his parents, H. D. and Barbara Lafferty, his three older brothers, Kenneth, Lynn, and Michael, his parents-in-law, Tom and Carol Helm, his nephew, Mark Helm and his niece, Isabella Lafferty.
A Celebration of Life service will be held at 2:00pm on Saturday, May 21, 2022 at South-Broadland Presbyterian Church, 7850 Holmes Road in Kansas City, MO.Those who are attending are asked to wear bright, colorful clothing (no black). Anyone wanting to speak, (and all are welcome and encouraged to do so) should be ready with a fun or touching story about Pat or a good joke. (We all know how much Pat loved a joke!) The service should be a glorious and fun day, with few or no tears because, it is a celebration after all, not a mournful time.
Donations, if desired, can be made to the church or to the American Heart Association.
I never knew Pat, but you’ve painted such a bright picture of him I feel as if I do know him. And I *like* him!
The world lost a bright light when he died. I trust he has left part of his light in your heart, Dottie. Thank you for sharing this. Hugs to you all.
Didn’t know Pat have have been a long time friend of all the Helms since I was 6 years old. Dottie I am so sorry for your loss but know he will be with you forever!! Love and hugs to all. And Mama Dorothy has already wrapped him up in her arms and telling old stories about all of us. Prayers
I never got to meet Daddy Bird in person but did chat with him a little on YouTube bird nest sites and have become a close friend to his wonderful daughter. She has made it clear to all of us what a great dad Pat was. May the whole family be at peace.
What a fun and wonderful life he did have. I so enjoyed him while watching Molly and when his family visited San Diego. I always think of him as TDB.
I am so sorry for the family loss. He will be much missed.
To my dear Dot Rot and CC,
I had the pleasure of meeting you and The Daddy Bird at the owl meet up reunion. You all were such sweet and loving people. The stories with Vacadude we so special and fun, and I loved when TDB would join in. Fond memories are in my heart. I’m so saddened about TDB and offer prayers and hugz to you and your family. Peace to you all.
Dorothy, so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed meeting both of you and your family. I especially enjoyed the times Pat and I would have together playing music. He surely enjoyed playing guitar. Thanks for extending the opportunity to minister at your church. You are both kind-hearted folks and I’m glad to have known you all. I’ll be praying for you.
PastorTom Lay
I never met him but I have the honor of knowing CC and chatting with her at RRP Decorah North Nest Eagles. To CC and your mom, I am so sorry for the lost of DaddyBird. Prayers for you.
to the Lafferty family – so very sorry for your loss. Sadly, I never met him but I know Colleen (CC) just adored him. I know you will always miss him but you will also have many wonderful memories, too. Heartfelt condolences.
So very sorry to hear this. What a happy person he was! My sincerest sympathy to DotRot and ChatterChopz. Sally Edge aka MollyLoverForever
While I never had the pleasure of meeting DaddyBird, I have been blessed with the honor of getting to know & chat with his beautiful daughter CC. My thoughts, prayers & sincere condolences are with all of you!!
Sharing the National Worship Leader Conference with Pat was a wonderful time. Life had many challenges to him but those were overcome by love and humor. Jan
Dottie & Colleen – Pat was such a great guy & I’m lucky to have known him for the short time I’ve been your neighbor. He was always so kind and willing to lend me a helping hand when needed (chickens, mice, spiders – haha). I’m quite introverted, so I would always joke to my friends that you know it says a lot about him if I’m voluntarily going to chat with a neighbor when I see him outside haha, but he was just that genuine, welcoming, colorful & entertaining. Tucker and I will miss him a lot! My sincerest condolences to you and your family.
Dear Dotty and Colleen, Kirk and I are so very sorry for the passing of Pat on April, 28th. It was a shock when we received your call. We have so many memories of getting together for barbequing and Kirk and Pat playing their instruments together, which they both loved doing. Please accept our condolences. Pat will be truly missed!
My sympathies to the family. I never knew Patrick but did get to know CC through the Decorah North Nest.
Never met Daddybird but have had the pleasure of chatting with Colleen (CC) on the Decorah North Eagles chat. So sorry for his loss, but he and Colleens mom have raised a wonderful daughter.
My sympathies to TDB’s family and friends. I had the pleasure of chatting with TDB, Dot and CC at the Sunday story writing sessions. Those were fun times and TDB always made us laugh. May he rest in peace.