Thomas Worthing Gray

Beloved husband, father, Buddy, and friend passed away July 18, 2023 after a battle with glioblastoma. He remained the same kind, patient and loving man right up until the end and was surrounded by family in his last days. Glioblastoma and brain surgery would have gotten most people down but he lived the last year and a half with such vigor, hope and joy that you might never know he had a terminal diagnosis. While we would have never been ready to say goodbye to our Buddy, we are so thankful for the time we were able to spend with him and the eternal optimism that he spread to us all.

Thomas Worthing Gray was born December 31, 1954 in Lake Forest, Illinois to Anne Gray Dreher and Earl Gray. He spent much of his childhood in Leawood before moving to Columbus, OH in high school. He eventually ended up reuniting with his Shawnee Mission South buddies at the University of Kansas. His adventures with his friends led to him getting picked up hitchhiking by his acquaintance, Pam Comer, in Colorado. The rest, as they say, is history and they built a beautiful life together in Kansas City. Tom served his community as a trusted attorney for over 40 years.

Tom loved sports, music, and his friends but most of all, he loved his wife of almost 46 years, Pam his kids Katy Martin (Casey), Andrew (LeighAnne), Lauren Sotos (James) and Carolyn Huggins (Jeff), and his 13 grandkids (George, Bennett, Peter, Tilly Gray, Luella, Graham, Henry, Timmy, Jack, Emma, Harry, Grace and Harvey). He loved being Buddy and he was the best grandfather.

In addition, Tom is survived by his brother Steve (Rosemary), stepsisters Jann (John) Kloor, Elise (Bob Jensen) Dreher, Eve Dreher, Marthe (Rick) Tamblyn, mother-in-law, Barbara Comer, sisters-in-law, Betsy Comer, and Julie (Mike) Granstaff and numerous nieces and nephews and their families.

Tom’s kindness and love of life was contagious and we all know that his legacy will continue through his friends and family. In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to the Cancer Center at KU Medical Center or the Kansas City Hospice House. His family requests that you do an act of kindness in his honor.

A celebration of life will be held on Thursday, August 24th at 5PM at the Lodge at Ironwoods, Leawood KS. For more details see the caringbridge page.

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